The SHAMEBOOTH podcast explores the science, psychology, and just general fucked-upness behind one of the most intense and isolating emotions a person can feel, anchoring each episode with the voices of real people who stepped into the haint blue safe space itself.
From comedians to therapists, sociologists to actors, we delve into this dynamic and universal condition with the hope to inspire listeners to free themselves of the shackles of shame and be free.
Episode 12: Finn Deerhart – Ain’t no shame in gay
You are born in the south, raised moving from small town to small town because your father is a minister in the church, you’re gay and you know it but you can’t come out, and all you hear from your family is how homosexuality is a sin, an abomination. You’re stuck, at least it feels that way. So you get married, your wife knows that you have sexual inclinations towards the same sex and she loves you so she’s open to it. But ultimately that’s not enough, love can’t overcome your intrinsic character. So you escape your life in the south, your family, your upbringing and you come to California, adopt a new name, create your true identity and help others do the same. That’s the story, in a nutshell, of Finn Deerhart who moved out to California to find out who he is. Today, Finn helps men face the shame they carry inside around their sexuality and dispel it so that they can accept themselves and have healthy, sexy, long-lasting relationships. He’s in this to get people to feel proud of who they are and what they want. Guess what, so are we.
Episode 11: Dawn Nickel and She Recovers
Let’s face it- we’re all recovering from something. Do you hide away in the kitchen feeding that chocolate addiction, do you need to get high to make love, is there something that you are compelled to do that keeps you away from being free? There are all sorts of addictions and every day we are recovering from one kind or another.
Be it our own journey or the journey of a loved one, recovery from addiction of any kind is something that carries an air of social stigma. Something we do in private. Uh, NEWS FLASH! Bringing it into the light, shedding the shame you may carry around it, feeling proud and recovering out loud is empowering and liberating. It’s what we’re all about. It’s also what Dawn Nickel of She Recovers is about.
In this episode of SHAMEBOOTH, we speak with kindred spirit Dawn Nickel, co-founder of She Recovers exploring addiction, recovery and the power of sharing and healing because when we heal, our families and communities heal as well. Boom.
We also hear from other women the advice they would give themselves early in their recovery. It’s some powerful shit.
Episode 9: MILCK
In this episode of SHAMEBOOTH Podcast we follow one artist’s journey out of shame and silence into unrepentant, uncompromising, balls-to-the-wall self-honesty.
Her generational anthem “Quiet” went viral at the Women’s March January 27, 2017 receiving 14 million views in 48 hours. A survivor of abuse, anorexia, and depression, Quiet is her thesis on her journey as a woman, an Asian American, a Feminist and as a Human Being. Quiet is about helping people who have been silenced reclaim their power. #icantkeepquiet and neither will we.
Episode 8: Homelessness with Doniece Sandoval
If there is one place where we see a whole lot of shame, it’s in the condition of not having a home, of being homeless, houseless, unhoused. Those that are without a home feel ashamed, we as bystanders feel ashamed for not doing anything about it and cities that have homeless populations feel shame too! So we brought Doniece Sandoval, founder of Lava Mae, on the show. Her organization instills a deep sense of pride in a population that struggles with shame. Lava Mae has turned busses into showers for the homeless. Just as people walk into the SHAMEBOOTH to shed their shame and feel proud, people flock to Lava Mae to wash themselves and come out clean, and proud.
Episode 7: What Is Shame with Eve Ekman – Part 2
Okay, so, our conversation with Dr. Eve Ekman was so good we had to make it a two parter. We also have some amazing stories from the the booth and also from the street by our intrepid producer Regina Bediako – listen closely to the section that starts around the 4 minute mark, thanks Regina.
Episode 6: What Is Shame with Eve Ekman – Part 1
For our 6th episode of SHAMEBOOTH, we are getting back to the basics, so to speak, and asking the deceptively simple question, what the heck is shame. Our guest is Dr. Eve Ekman who has been working in the field of emotions for over a decade and her most recent project has been a collaboration with His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Together they created the Atlas of Emotions which identifies certain universal emotions, like sadness, anger and enjoyment, and explores what they are, how they feel in the body, what they lead to and how to work effectively with them when they arise. Eve is a bad ass: Artist, surfer, doctor, writer, meditator, teacher and knows a thing or two about shame. Apparently, if you don’t think you have shame, you’re not looking closely enough!
Episode 5: Gender and Sexuality with guest Ash Beckham
We all have our closets – I mean our emotional ones – where we hide things away not wanting anyone to see. In this episode, we’re discussing coming out of those closets and not allowing our shame to limit who we are and what we can be. Through radical honesty with ourselves and the world, our insightful guest Ash Beckham shares her story with care, love, and humor.
Episode 4: The foundations of love with Charlotte Kasl
Ahhhh, love. Boy oh boy do we carry a lot of stuff around love. Who do we love, who loves us, how were we loved, what is loving, who am I allowed to love, why is it important, why is it the most important thing. Is it? We speak with author and psychologist, Charlotte Kasl, and we also hear stories from the booth.
Episode 3: Taking it to the streets at the Women’s March
In this episode, we take it to the streets, speaking with men and women at the 2nd annual Women’s March in San Francisco where people come to voice their shame about our administration and in finding like-minded people around them, feel empowered and a little bit freer.
Episode 2: Tarana Burke, Time Magazine’s Silence Breaker and founder of #MeToo
When Tarana Burke was in her early 20s and director of a youth camp, one of her girls told Tarana her story of having been sexually abused. Tarana was frozen and speechless, not knowing what to say or do but inside herself, she heard the words ‘me too’ and later created the hashtag on Twitter, giving girls and women a voice. Fast forward to today, in the wake of Harvey Weinstein and countless others, and #metoo has gone viral with millions of people posting it on social media and creating an unprecedented movement. Tarana Burke was just named one of Time Magazine’s People of the Year and the movement is building momentum every day. Paula spoke with Tarana to learn more about the history of #metoo, where it is now and where we go from here.